Many people are unable to have good sound sleep for the requisite 7 to 8 hours regularly. Because of this lack of sleep, it is not possible for them to live their lives fully. They are not able to attain their full potential with respect to wealth, health and relationships.
This post is about using feng shui as a tool to help you achieve good sleep which:
- Enhances your wealth and health aspects of your life
- Provides you with a more intimate atmosphere for sex
- Enhances your relationship – either attracting a new person or enhancing the bond with your partner.
In feng shui, the bedroom is the most important room in the home. You spend at least 8 hours a day. These tips are to create an improved environment in your bedroom to achieve the above aims.
1. Where is the best location for the bedroom?
Not every person can have good sleep anywhere. So where can you have good sleep?
The best location for good sleep for most people is where there is peace and quiet. In feng shui, this is where the energy is quiet and still (the Chinese call it “yin”). Where do you find this yin energy in the house?
- In a quiet location. This is usually found at the rear of the house. Avoid locations near the front or busy areas that have yang energies. In the upper floors, the back of the house is preferred to the front. The bedroom is for rest and sleep, it needs the energy to be yin.
- The bedroom should not be over a garage or driveway. These areas are considered to be “external” and not “internal”. The external energy is unrestrained in the environment. Internal energy is inside the house where it is constrained by the 4 walls of the property.
- The bedroom should not be above or below the kitchen, especially, the kitchen stove. Also, the bedroom should never share the same wall as the kitchen stove. The kitchen stove is a producer of yang energy. The energy of the bedroom is yin. The two do not mix.
- The bedroom needs new energy. Open the windows to allow fresh energy to come in. If the windows are not opened regularly, the energy in the room gets stale and the air feels stagnant. This can become a breeding ground for mould and fungus. This not too healthy.
2. What is the ideal size for the Bedroom?
This question has been asked many times. Below is the logic of how the “ideal” size is determined.
- The bedroom has to be cosy and intimate. Therefore, it cannot be too large. A suggested bedroom size is about 140 sq. ft (about 14 sq. m). This room can keep the energy of 2 persons in a comfortable and intimate manner. When the bedroom is too large, there is a feeling of being lost. Again, it must not be too small as people have to walk around the bed comfortably. If storage is an issue, why not have a dressing room which can be used as a walk-in cupboard.
- How do you cope with small bedrooms as space is a limitation in many new compact houses or apartment units? The bed size remains the same as it has to fit the human body. It is the space that is around the bed that gets smaller. This generally means a better organisation in the use of storage in drawers and cupboards.
3. What is the ideal bedroom layout to improve your sleep?
The shape of the bedroom is to be regular. Either square or rectangular. With this shape, the energy circulates in an even manner. This minimises the dead areas where the energy stagnates.
- Sound sleep is better achieved when there is an even flow of energy in the bedroom. A flat and level ceiling will enable the energy flow evenly. However, this even flow is disrupted when the ceiling is tilted or when there is an obstruction like an overhead cupboard or beam is over the bed.
- Ceiling beams are best avoided when they are over the bed:
- when the beam is in line with the bed but between the 2 persons. There is a strong indication of a breakdown in the relationship.
- If it is across the person’s body, it can indicate the location of an illness.
- The door should be in the lower half of the bedroom so the energy is pointing to the foot of the bed (see Image 04). The door should not face the head of the bed as this energy is considered to be disruptive to good sleep. It is best to keep the door closed or slightly ajar so that the room retains the energy.
- The sleeping body should not be “inline” with the door – this is where the feet point directly to the door. This is known as the “death position”.
- Ensuite Bathroom: This door should be in the lower half of the bedroom, towards the foot of the bed. The door of the bathroom should be closed when people are asleep. This is to minimise the outflow of energy from the bedroom.
- The windows can be left open very slightly. This is to let the energy in very gently. Also, with closed windows, there can be a build-up of condensation.
- The room temperature is to be kept cool so that the people can sleep easily. Either the heating is turned off (in temperate countries) or the air conditioning or fan turned on to cool the room (in tropical countries).
4. Where is the best place to place the Bed?
The best place to put your bed is governed very much by the energy flows in the bedroom.
- Logic would dictate that it would be in the centre of the bedroom: For a double bed, there should be space for both persons to get onto the bed easily. A single bed can be placed by the wall as one person is getting out of the bed.
- A bed headboard, preferable solid and firm, is placed against the wall. The headboard is to keep the energy within the bed and not let it leak away. There should not be a gap between the headboard and the wall.
- The headboard should not below or near a window.
- The wall with the headboard should not be shared with a bathroom/toilet, kitchen (especially kitchen stove) and a bathroom door.
5. What about the Bed?
The bed is not only a place for you lay your body to relax and sleep, the bedclothes (blankets/quilts) and headboards are there for a reason.
- There should be ample and unobstructed space between the base of the bed and the floor. This is to allow the energy in the room to circulate freely.
- The preferred material of the bedclothes is natural fabrics as they absorb moisture. Do not forget to replace the bedclothes regularly, at least once a week.
- Mattress and pillows need to be replaced regularly like every 8 to 10 years. They do wear out from regular use. This can affect the quality of your sleep.
6. How to take care of the Bedroom.
We spend at least 8 hours a day in the bedroom. It is a place of rest and sleep and not a place of activity. The environment should be maintained for that purpose.
- All other activities like work, games or physical fitness should not take place in this room. It makes the room active or yang. Therefore, equipment related to work or games – computers, tablets or phones; exercise machines and other electrical equipment should not in the bedroom. However, books or magazine for light reading is considered appropriate.
- The bedroom is to be kept clean. One consideration is the wearing of outdoor shoes in the bedroom. You do not want the outside dirt which can contain many unmentionables to be carried into the bedroom. Shoes should be changed near the entrance hall.
- The quality of the energy in the bedroom is to be kept “quiet and peaceful” or “yin”.
- Therefore, water features, aquarium, flowers and plants should not be in the bedroom. Flowers and plants are known to suppress the romance luck of the single person. They can also cause acrimonious feelings and even unfaithfulness between a couple.
- To maintain the circulation of the energy, clutter, especially items on the floor and those under the bed, should be cleared.
- To retain the energy in the bedroom, the door to the ensuite bathroom should be kept closed.
7. How to decorate the Bedroom.
The preferred colour for the walls and bedclothes are the neutral colours like magnolia or one of the “off-white shades”. In the bedroom, you do not want the colours to be too yin (like black or grey) or too yang (red or pink). The bedroom is for sleeping and therefore, a neutral colour is best. The bedroom is not a fashion statement.
- For couples, a single duvet is preferred as this shares the energy of the 2 persons. In the Nordic countries, it is normal for a couple to have 2 separate single duvets.
- Just simple lighting, with a facility for a dimmer to lower the levels of lighting, is suggested. This is just a bedroom and no more.
- Curtains or Blinds are essential to maintain privacy. Also, to keep the morning light out in the summer months when the sun rises very early in the morning.
- Always check for odours. Anything rancid or dead should be got rid of immediately. A suggestion is to place very mild scents of essential oils in the room.
- Floors: The body sheds dead skin cells all the time. It is preferable to have wooden floors as the dust can be easily swept away. Carpets cannot be thoroughly vacuumed especially at the corners. You do not know what is hidden in the carpet pile.
- The furniture should be functional and proportionate to the size of the bedroom.
- Do not have mirrors that reflect the sleeping body. The mirror affects the quality of sleep.
8. How the bedroom can help you attain your aspirations.
- Symbols of Good Fortune which are for enhancing harmonious relationships, may be useful for couples or single people seeking romance. A popular symbol is a pair of yin-yang ducks or mandarin ducks, which usually come in colourfully hand-painted wood. These should be placed in the South-west corner of the bedroom or near the bed. Another potent symbol is the ‘double happiness’ sign which is the Chinese calligraphy for happiness and love, popular in bridal chambers at Chinese weddings. These signs are normally written in gold embossed on red cards — an auspicious colour combination for good luck.
- For children’s rooms, place natural crystals like quartz or amethyst on the study desk to enhance their Education Luck. To inspire their academic aspirations even further, display portraits of learned and famous role models in their room, such as Einstein or someone the child or student aspires to be (by this we don’t mean a rock star). This is said to attract scholastic success.
- Bedroom pictures can be of the romantic couple on holiday, aspirations of the new home, new job. A picture of a happy family having a good time, over dinner or at a celebration.
- For Love, place rose quartz heart crystals and a rose quartz crystal in the South West Corner of your bedroom.
- Express what you want in a manifestation of your visualisation. This could be objects, carving or images of your aims in life. A model of the car you cherish, the image of the dress you want. The list is endless.
This review consists of 8 actionable feng shui steps to improve sleep in the Bedroom. It might be impossible to get the perfect feng shui bedroom but like they say, “Every Little Bit Helps”.
You have the time… it is up to you to do it.
Please do make a comment on the 8 Action Feng Shui steps. Your comments are most welcome.
Research by Helen and Michael Oon
Acknowledgements of the generosity of the following image libraries for the use of their images: